Happy Women’s History Month. All I’ve been reminded of this month is how we can’t walk home alone at night without the risk of being raped and/or murdered simply for existing. I’m reminded that men can throw away an Asian woman’s life because she was to blame for his nasty sex addiction. She was nothing more than a racial fetish that didn’t deserve to live in the eyes of a white man. I’m reminded that men willingly participate in the sexual coercion of a young female with the use of alcohol and aggressive persistence so that their friend can engage in a threesome for the first time. It didn’t matter that one of the girls was blacked out drunk, and had no way of consenting to any sexual activity.
I’m sick of the way we are treated.
I’m sick of being just a sex toy to men.
I’m sick of the slut shaming.
I’m sick of men thinking they are entitled to our bodies.
I’m sick of men who think they are owed sex simply because you’re in a relationship with them.
I’m sick of the cat calls on the street, and the insults and/or bodily harm that follows when women reject these advances.
I’m sick of being told that we should accept this type of verbal abuse as “compliments.”
I’m sick of men being bothered by women who post their significant other on social media because we should be minimized to an available sexual object for all men to fantasize about online. I’m sorry, but I’m NOT your girlfriend.
I’m sick of men complaining about the friendzone because they think any woman they are nice to should have sex with them.
I’m sick of toxic masculinity.
I’m sick of men not understanding what CONSENT is.
I’m sick of women being blamed for our own sexual assault.
“What were you wearing?”
“Why were you out so late at night?”
I’m sick of how men take NO RESPONSIBILITY for what they do to us.
I’m sick of men using false accusations to discredit the commonality of sexual assault against women. Majority of reported sexual assaults are TRUE.
I’m sick of the fact that women feel they can’t come foward with their sexual assault because they will not be believed, and because of the ridicule and shame they would endure by the public.
I’m sick of the rape culture in this country, and the men who say it doesn’t exist.
I’m sick of men dismissing a women’s experience simply because they don’t know any women who have been sexually assaulted.
You have not lived your life as a woman, how would you know what we go through?
I’m sick of living in fear because a man might be having a “bad day.”
I’m sick of men who are only concerned about parading around the phrase “NOT ALL MEN” instead of the actual issues that women endure daily.
TALK about how men touch our bodies without consent.
TALK about the sexual coercion.
TALK about the sexual assault and the violence we face everyday.
TALK about the RAPES.
Most sexual assaults and rapes are committed by someone we know. Women CAN BE and ARE raped by their significant others. Rapes are not always violent acts that are committed by some random stranger on the street. Sexual offenders come from all different backgrounds - they can be doctors, lawyers, police officers, etc. Everyday “normal” people CAN be rapists too. Stop believing that only criminals and mental ill people commit sexual assaults.
STOP gaslighting us.
STOP acting like this isn’t happening to us.
When you scream “NOT ALL MEN,” you only make it about yourself. You are NOT listening and are refusing to address the real issues at hand. You are choosing to not fight the patriarchy because you benefit from the systemic oppression of women everyday. I’m tired of men doing the BARE MINIMUM. The fact that you do not commit sexual assaults or rapes is literally doing the bare minimum.
DO BETTER. Educate your peers. Stop allowing other men to talk about us like we’re mere objects, and not actual human beings. Teach your sons to do better. Hold your friends accountable for their disgusting behavior towards women. STOP covering for your rapist friends. It’s unbelievable that men will support a rapist over a rape victim. Please stand up for us when you see a woman being harassed or harmed by another man. Take our sexual assault seriously, and do not dismiss it as nothing. Stop automatically believing the perpetrators over the victims.
I’m sick of never feeling safe.
I’m sick of always being terrified of being raped and/or murdered every day I step outside by myself.
I’m sick of texting my boyfriend where I am at all times when I go out on my own just so he knows I’m not in danger.
I’m SICK of living like this.
I REFUSE to be a victim.
I REFUSE to be a statistic.
I REFUSE to be silent.
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